A Personal Look at Muslim Marriage

Sister Na’ima B. Roberts writes about Marriage on the Times website. It’s a personal look at what marriage means to her and worth the read. Here’s an excerpt:

Bismillah

My husband is ill. He lies in bed, in the dark. I try to keep the children quiet. I try to keep them from disturbing him. I try to get them to sleep without too much fuss.

When all is peace, I tiptoe into the room. I feel his forehead for signs of a fever. I ask him if he needs anything. He needs to drink fluids, Vitamin C. I know this. And I also know that he won’t ask.

So I go to the kitchen, put the kettle on. I mix him a drink – lemon to fight the cold germs, honey to soothe his sore throat, fresh mint leaves to lift the taste a little. I say ‘Bismillah’ before I pour the hot water, make a little prayer for his well being, before taking it to him. He smiles through his discomfort. I have brought him ease.

But I wave away his thanks. It is nothing.

I am his wife. That’s what I’m here to do.

To read the rest of the article, click here: Times Online

What do you think of Na’ima’s take on marriage? Do you see marriage the way she does? Or does it mean something else to you?

Nusrah Wali

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3 Comments
  1. though am still a spinster but Naima is my ideal ‘wifely model’. jazakallah khair for inspiring us.

  2. I used to deal with painful acts of jealousy from my husband. Just he did not trust me. When we went to Las Vegas for a convention and we went to an buffet and he tried to pretend to lure me to gamble and I was trying hard to get him away from that darn machine. I was nearly going to start to cry because I dont gamble and I find it to be like a disease. He was shocked he could not lure me to do it. From that point on he did not bother me about trusting me. And I feel so much happier.
    Reading her recapp with regards to her husband is really sweet but it is often hard to have it that sweet even when we love our spouses immensely.